What is the book The Four Tendencies: The Indispensable Personality Profiles That Reveal How to Make Your Life Better (And Other People’s Lives Better, Too) by Gretchen Rubin about?
As the title suggests, the book divides people into four different groups, just like the Hogwarts Houses, (The author’s words, not mine.), based on how we meet expectations.
There are two types of expectations: Inner Expectations and Outer Expectations.
Outer Expectations include expectations that others have of us, such as your boss may need you to hit a specific target every month, or your teacher may want you to get a certain grade in your next test.
Outer expectations include everything that others expect from you, it can be a person, an organization, a book, or even an entity we believe in such as a God.
Inner expectations are the things that we expect from ourselves such as taking a day off, reading a book for pleasure, or setting up our business.
The inner expectations often include goals and tasks that we set for ourselves.
Gretchen Rubin puts each one of us into four different categories based on our reaction to both these types of expectations.
The Four Categories are the Upholders, Questioners, Obligers, and Rebels.